3 VALUABLE LIFE LESSONS I LEARNT FROM THE MOVIE: NAPPILY EVER AFTER + A BONUS

By Emete Smart - 14:06



Nappily Ever After is one absolutely fantastic movie I enjoyed seeing from beginning to the end. I lied. I didn't especially like the end because hey, I expected Violet to fall in love with the Saloon guy and you know, show some 'Happily Ever After' moments. But you see? This is one of the reasons I love this movie. It didn't have a cliche ending. We would have sworn they would have gotten into a relationship before the end of the movie but I'm glad they skipped that part. Hey, no spoilers. Let's just learn some sweet lessons.

1. SELF LOVE

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Right from the beginning, Violet appeared resolute, like someone who wouldn't like to be controlled, especially in the beginning when she jumped into the swimming pool against her mother's wish but as the movie progressed, we could see that she eventually gave it all up. She was being controlled like a puppet and didn't even know herself. This affected a lot of things in her life especially the thing she held in high esteem, her relationship. But when things come crumbling and she goes on a journey to self discovery, flipping the rules and doing her, things begin to work in the right direction. It only goes to say that we all need to know our worth. Once you know your worth, you won't take shit from anybody! Part of self discovery includes following your passion. She turned what could have caused her tremendous pain, into her gain. Does this sound like Toke Makinwa? Well, maybe not. Boy, Girl, KNOW THY WORTH!

'She turned what could have caused her tremendous pain, into her gain'

2. NO MATTER WHAT, DON'T GO BACK TO YOUR EX

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If there is any mistake Violet made, it has to be going back to her ex. See, for you to leave someone, it means the person did something wrong. For you to decide to go back to the person, you have to be sure it is really what you want, that the person is changed and that going back is a better option than moving forward. In her case, going back was the worst decision ever. It absolutely blinded her! He was never worth her in the first place. What is the use of a partner if he cannot vocalize your weak point lovingly and help you become better? You see that your ex, don't go back to them, no matter what except of course, going back is better than moving forward. You make a choice.

For you to decide to go back to the person, you have to be sure it is really what you want, that the person is changed and that going back is a better option than moving forward

3. IT'S OKAY TO WALK AWAY LAST MINUTE

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Everything appeared like it was going on well but at the last minute where she was supposed to get entangled, she took a step backward, examined everything and walked away regardless of what looked like gold before her. At the beginning of the movie, she was dying to get proposed to but at the end of the movie, her maturity and sense of reasoning had grown due to her developing self love and self worth. That which she was dying for initially became absolutely nothing to her anymore and she walked away with her head up and her shoulder high. You might be in a relationship where you aren't so sure or in a deal or a situation where everyone is rooting for you to take a particular decision. Its very much okay to take step back, examine the whole thing and walk away even at the dying minute if you realize its not what you want. Violet definitely taught us how to do it like a boss!

Its very much okay to take step back, examine the whole thing and walk away even at the dying minute if you realize its not what you want

And a bonus! Hahaha...what's my list without a bonus? *winks*

4. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE NEXT NICEST PERSON

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You see this particular lesson? Its the crown of it all! Yes, you just got off a relationship. Well, maybe its not yet time to venture into another one, at least not immediately. Violet teaches us that you don't have to rush things. No, you don't have to be in a relationship with the next nicest person. No. Take your time. Breathe and live. Be sure you love yourself enough and absolutely know your worth. Then, you can consider it when you are ready. Do you on your own terms, always remember this.

Do you on your own terms, always remember this.

I absolutely loved and enjoyed Nappily Ever After. If you have seen it, tell me all the lessons you learnt from it and if you are yet to see it, it is a very beautiful 2018 movie. You should give it a try! 

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  1. Hello Emete. I really enjoyed reading your lessons. I too read the film and reviewed it. I agree with you on the ending - it was a bit lacklustre for me. But you are so discerning, some of the lessons you picked up on went way over my head - namely the one about not getting with the next nicest person.

    Madeline
    www.madelinewilsonojo.com

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    1. Awwww. I love your comment. So lovely! Thanks madeline!

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